Parent - "Difficulties in parenting?"
1. Caregivers assist children too quickly, depriving them of the opportunity to practice
Result: The child becomes a little bully who relies on him for everything.
Tips for caregivers: Gradually develop children's self-care abilities so that children can learn to be independent
2. Caregiver's careless comparison
Result: The child becomes a little bully who specialises in opposition and destruction.
Tips for caregivers: Avoid comparisons and comments using general words such as "the best, the stupidest...". Both praise and criticism need to describe the child's specific behavior, such as "you helped prepare the meal today, mom is so happy." ," Mom is a little disappointed that you failed this time, and she even thought you didn't work hard enough. You can tell me if you have any difficulties in this exam, and we can discuss how to improve next time. "
(The immediate reaction of the caregiver is usually anger or disappointment. It is recommended that the caregiver calm down his own emotions before expressing his emotions and expectations to the child. At the same time, the caregiver should also guide the child to express his inner feelings, and finally discuss countermeasures together.)
3. Use corporal punishment
Result: The child becomes a terrible violent bully
Tips for caregivers: Avoid corporal punishment. Corporal punishment may have a temporary deterrent effect, but in the long run it will only cause children to resist and hate, and they will learn to treat others in a violent and violent way. Therefore, caregivers need to maintain the patience of "stop and endure" and try to reason with the child, or set up a calm area for the child to reflect; or use methods such as banning TV viewing, canceling rewards, etc. to punish the child so that the child can Learn the consequences of behavior.
